Out rapper Kaoz on "It Gets Better" by alice bee toklas, at burst market 1:03 pm / 28 November 2010
The problem I have with the campaign is largely rhetorical. Is the dismissive "it gets better" the most comforting message Americans can offer queer youth? Instead of socially reprimanding "bullies," the slogan calls on the victims of sexual discrimination to simply adjust their outlooks on life and think of what the future *might* hold. It comes off as ignorant of the institutionalized heterosexism that marks instances of LGBTQ youth suicides as unique. This is not to say teen suicide is unimportant in itself; the age-based hierarchy that leaves even the most otherwise privileged teens powerless over many aspects of their lives is another area that requires research and public attention, but do LGBTQ teens ever grow out of their oppression?
What if they're killed before they reach adulthood when it (supposedly) gets better, like murder victims 15-year olds Lawrence King and Sakia Gunn? And a more realistic question is: what if it never gets better? In cases involving adults Matthew Shepard and Brandon Teena, and Brian Betts, middle school principal killed earlier this year, the heterosexism that fuels bullying led to death.
So how can we utilize the awareness surrounding LGBTQ abuse that the "it gets better" campaign has afforded us to elaborate on the message? How can we make America's message to queer youth more comforting; how can we create community and inspire activism rather than apathetic patience?
I'm really inspired by openly gay rapper Kaoz who, in his recent track "(Keep It) Human (Rmx)," addresses LGBTQ teen suicide with empathy,
Even throw a heavy hand in ya weddin’/and with an invitation into a community of LGBTQ rights activists:
Insecurities always emerge when we’re threatened/
Hate and oppression replicates like an infection/
Level 5 biohazard, man I feel it spreadin’/
I tend to look at this as mental Armageddon/
Trying to swim a few laps, but still we only treadin/
Blood is on our hands, the body count is so upsettin’/
We jettin towards our ruin, hold ya head keep it Human
You're not alone and you don't have to be/I like this song because I think it's important for oppressed people to have a sense of community, & to hear affirmation and acknowledgment of their concerns. "It gets better" is more hopeful than it is sincere at a time when gay and lesbians are dying on account of their sexual identities. I don't want to hear an ambiguous "it gets better," I want to hear that someone is working on it! "You're not alone, I'm fighting for you" is more comforting and inspires a more productive mentality, an invitation into a revolution. A goal and a plan.
I’ll be the hip hop branch from the olive tree/
And I’m doing this here, so you can rock with me/
This Revolution, it’s time for our equality/
Right now, this hour, our voices get louder
About the song, he says,
"This song is dedicated to each and every young adult, teen and person that we have lost and may continue to lose as a result of the increasings acts of violence & hate that eats away at so many of us, internal and external. Hate based on class, race, size, "difference," bullying, discrimination, disenfranchisement, disappointment, despair.
With this, I lift their voices. I call on the many voices bellowing from the lungs of those still alive. Us. The change. The chance. Lets go...'"
You can download the track free of charge at Fans of Kaoz and BandCamp. As always, I'd appreciate the feedback.









